We love to talk about love, we try to
promote the positive and make the world a better place by focusing on the good
instead of what is less.
It is an ugly truth but still a lot of people prefer to
cultivate hate instead of love. They always see the negative in every picture.
We don’t want to focus on the negative but they exist they are everywhere and
they contaminate the world with their bitterness and misery. Hate will always
ends in spiritual and physical diseases. It is pretty normal that sometimes something
or someone irritates you so much they make you explode. We need to understand that we are human
and that is normal. So when you are feeling that way don't try to hide it ! feel it , express it and let it go! I am not talking about that kind of feeling. I am talking
about a feeling that goes beyond a moment of imbalance. I am talking about the
ones that get stuck in that condition of anger and always make their
out-most to see the negative in each and every situation.
Their negative attitude toward the world and their self,
have nothing to do with us but it is interested to analyze why people chose to
hate instead of love. Some people are not even conscious that they are harming
their self. Hate is a poison you give to others but you are the one who is
dying. Maybe by confronting those with this matter will make them choose to
change because sometimes they are not even conscious about their toxic attitude. Or it will help us to understand them better and show compassion.
Childhood
Most of the attitude we have are originating from our
childhood. The environment we have been raised in ,the attitude of our
surroundings, some traumas or the lack of love and affection from our parents.
We are a reflection of what we see every day as a child. That will become our reality and
behavior or our inner struggle. If we grew up around people that think, speak
and behave negatively and that are complaining the most of the time, probably
you will adopt that same attitude without being conscious that it is not right.
Until we decide to detach and to change. The willingness to change is already a
huge step forward. To take this step we need to be open we need to confront our
self to take the decision to change other wise it will become an inner struggle.
Hidden Weakness
Have you ever say, I can’t stand that person! I hate the way
she talks, she looks or she walk? Let me tell you something, there is nothing
wrong with that person. It is all about you and your hidden weakness. Sometimes
it is difficult to understand, but the person we hate reflects our inner struggles.
Those people get your attention and trigger your thoughts of hate so deep because
they are confronting you with a true about yourself that you are hiding from. We
are often afraid to look at our self, to confront our self. That weakness that
needs to be handled will hide so deep that we will not even notice it. It happens
that when we met people with an attitude that can confronts us with our hidden weakness, we can react with hate.
Insecurities / Lack
of confidence
The most dangerous haters are the ones with lack of confidence
or with insecurities. They live their life comparing their self with others,
thinking that the other is better, complaining about what they have, and
feeling inferior because they look up at someone that in their eyes is better.
They pretend to be someone they are not and constantly needs approval to feel
good with their self. These kinds of persons are building up insecurities
instead of self-love, because they will be constantly disappointed. And the
absence of love will make space for the presence of hate!
How can we drive out
hate?
Like mother Teresa used to say; “ Not all of us can do great things, but we can do little things with great love". There is where we need to start! Doing things with great love. Only love can drive out hate
Start practicing compassion instead of judging, start loving yourself,
discover the great person you are, build a relationship of trust with God and
yourself. When you are truly fine with yourself, there will be no space, no opportunity,
and no sense to think or feel something negative.
Just love and be open to be loved.
